Monday. Today is Monday. Some of you partied all weekend. Some of you worked overtime at your 9-5s. And some of you indulged in self-care practices at home, happy you didn’t make any plans, or happy that someone cancelled plans. 😂 But today is Monday and I thought it would be a great day to address something that…I don’t know how to word this sentence, so let me get right to it: PROCRASTINATION.
I’m going to be completely honest with you, which I promise to do over the lifetime of my blog. I am one of the biggest procrastinators I know. I mean, I might not be that bad because I’m sure there are people all around me delaying dreams and tasks I know nothing about. I may actually be inspiring them. They might see what I put into the universe and say, “Wow, Krystal gets shit done.” But let me tell you something: I do not have my shit together. So don’t beat yourself up about it. There is always something that got put on the back burner so that I could do something else more interesting or momentarily beneficial. I feel like I always owe someone something. I do. Everyday. I am fortunate enough to be multi-talented. No matter which way you spin it, not only do I owe people who pay for my services, but I owe the world my talent. That is my purpose. I’ve come to terms with that a long time ago. I mean, I owe it to myself. Knowing that, procrastinating is stressful!
To give you an insight into what I do so I don’t lose you later, I started my own hairbow line a few months ago called Denim & Bow (@denimandbow on Instagram). I also draw caricatures at home and at events as Kryzzy Drewit. (Check out the hashtag #kryzzydrewit on Instagram). Eventually, both will have websites. Its on the list.
As I type this, there are people whom I owe bows and artwork. There are people I owed artwork to for so long, that they asked me if I could replace it with bows instead since they saw that was my new venture. I am proud to say that right now all of my overdue paid orders for bows are finished. I have other tasks at hand as far as the Denim & Bow brand right now for the Spring, but I’m getting somewhere. My love for drawing has kind of shifted, so aside from showing up for gigs, my in-house caricature work doesn’t really get done when it needs to because I’d rather be doing something else. That may sound like an excuse, yeah, but that’s what it is.
It doesn’t help that because I’m really good at what I do, even when I’m late, people want more. How many times have I heard something was worth the wait? Countless times. Just heard it yesterday from a Denim & Bow customer actually. I also love the phrase, “Good things take time.” An art mentor/supervisor of mine told me once, “You show up late, but when you come to work, you work.” I know that I’m good at what I do. I get it. I would hope so, because more often than not, I take really long to do it.
Listen- I’m a perfectionist. I’m not sure where it stems from. Well, I’m a little sure. Growing up, I believe my mother, (who also struggled with her mental health), expected her children to be perfect. Not only would that make life easier on her since she had so many damn kids (lmao) (Love you Mom, I do) but I think naturally as parents, we want the best for our kids. However, it is so nerve-wrecking to tiptoe around trying not to spill something, or break something, or say something wrong, especially as a child. It’s bound to happen! And when you know you’re going to be physically or mentally abused for making a mistake, I think it sticks with you. I don’t think I’m still trying to please my mother, because over time I realized she can never be pleased anyway. I’m also not using my mother as a scapegoat because I’m an adult and I am responsible for my own actions. I DO think I just hate making mistakes. A lot.
So, I think all of what I just said contributes to why I start something and don’t finish it, start something and take really long to finish it, or don’t even start at all. I have “procrastination anxiety.” I want to give people the best unflawed body of work of all time, all the time. Now, you might not understand why that’s a problem. Shouldn’t we always want to give people our best? Isn’t exceeding someone’s expectations a great way to have a successful business? Absolutely. You can always do better, and offer higher quality than your competitors. But perfection doesn’t exist. So striving for it is going to cause problems. Every time.
I was taking a bath while I wrote this, and I just drained it. People in the house are starting to stir, and I can shift my energies into doing business-related things that make noise, unlike writing my blog which I can focus on when everyone is asleep. However, why did I find myself thinking, maybe we should do breakfast today? I’m ahead of schedule right now, so I guess that’s why. And I know how easily that could turn into behind schedule in the blink of an eye. You may have heard the phrase, “If you’re on time, you’re late.” I’m finding that to make more and more sense lately. Again, I get it.
So what’s my problem? If “I get it,” why am I still like this? Honestly, I feel like working on procrastinating is a way I procrastinate. The irony! 😂 Reading self-help books and browsing the internet for tips is one of my favorite past-times. I call it procrastinating, but is it really? For example, you know how you say you don’t have time to organize, but then later you’re wasting time looking for something because you didn’t have time to organize? So then you start organizing then and there, but now you’re behind on what made you rush to find the thing in the first place? So when are you supposed to organize? Lmaooo story of my life. Do you ever find yourself saying, “I’m late anyway, what difference is a few more minutes going to make?” (That later turns into a few more hours or days.) Oh or, “Better late than never.” Like, please tell me its not just me. Lastly, as a creative, one of my favorites is, “I just don’t feel inspired.”
I have found a few things to be helpful when it comes to procrastinating that I hope will help you if you can relate to me on any scale.
1. The Pomodoro Technique– I should do it more, but when I do it, I find it rewarding. Write a list of tasks you have to complete. Set a timer for 25 minutes, and allow yourself no distractions to work. Take a 5 minute break. Get something to drink, a snack, answer a text, whatever. After repeating this process 4 times, take a longer break (15-30 minutes) and do something mindless like vacuuming or stretching. Repeat. For more information, visit www.pomodorotechnique.com.
2. Write lists/record memos. As a person who wears many hats, and a creative person, I have a lot of ideas. Writing them down has helped me sort them out tremendously. Don’t let not having the best handwriting or grammar stop you. This is for YOU, your productivity, to improve your life. Buy yourself a pretty journal and use it. Also, invest in a planner. You can literally find one anywhere even Wal-Mart and The Dollar Tree, but I like Target and Barnes & Noble. Or even places like Marshalls or Ross.
3. Don’t spread yourself too thin. You are not obligated to answer everyone as soon as they text/call/DM/e-mail you. You’re not being a jerk. But you have priorities, goals. People who love and support you will understand you’re a busy person and won’t take it personal. If they’re busy people too, they get it. If you have friends and family who have no hobbies or goals, its not your job to entertain them. If you’re not a psychologist, it’s also not your job to constantly give them mental health advice.
Sidenote- People don’t like being left on “read.” If you know you don’t have time to properly respond to something, don’t open it. Set aside time everyday to respond to people, and yes, prioritize the order of responses as far as social life, emergencies, and business matters.
Also, its important to go to networking events/parties, and to just have a healthy social life in general. Can’t be all work and no play. However, don’t fill your schedule with events you don’t want to attend. You’re wasting time and you’re most likely going to spend the event miserable thinking about what you could be doing.
…I’m going to wrap this up, because I really am working on my issues, and you probably should be too if you have the same ones as me. This blog post isnt perfect, it feels a little unfinished actually, but the beauty of it is, it’s done. 🙃
And here are a few pictures I pinned that I love but couldn’t fit in this post.